Why's it so hard to make lasting friendships in vrc?
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It really depends. For me personally I have a small group of friends that I have been friends with for over a year at this point. Yeah you find degens and trolls, depending on how they present themselves is a really big tell. Usually the loud energetic ones are obviously more outgoing and stuff but I find a lot of them end up being temporary friendships because they are usually busy or constantly meeting new people (which is not a bad thing) It might be the energy you need but sometimes they don't know how to chill LOL. I've met so many "shy" people that open up, become energetic and they start playing games with me out of VRC. Some of the best friends I have were mute and didn't talk much at first. I agree people have to put in the effort though there's no real way to measure effort, people can seem like they are putting no effort at all but are actually trying very hard you know? ALSO I hate not knowing what will happen when I meet someone new because a lot of people on vrchat fall for people very easy and they will put a lot of effort and time into someone they just met and then disappear when they don't get what they wanted or needed. It's hard to make friends on there I agree but there's always someone who you just feel something about. You don't know what it is but it attracts you to them xD Look at their groups, meet the people they hang out with, stuff like that.
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Unfortunately a lot of public worlds are full of problematic people and kids (the ultimate evil). Its definitely one of VRChat's greatest issues, since adults that join either A) have to put in considerable effort/time beyond public worlds to find friends or B) They give up and don't come back.
The best thing you can do is google around and try to find discord groups that you can join. I joined groups that are specifically like age 25+ and have like VRFriday nights where people explore worlds and play games together to make friends in a more private and controlled setting (like a friend mixer). From there, people usually branch out and make smaller groups that become their more permanent "home". If you're trying to avoid people that are overtly sexual, I would recommend staying away from club groups and they tend to lean that direction. Look instead for world exploration groups or other groups that do more what suit your interests.
There are some drinking worlds and other, slightly more obscure, worlds that you can go to that are public that try and find people that are chill there, as your more likely to have luck in a situation where people are talking to random strangers as part of the world. I have also found success in choosing a more obscure world and setting it to public or group public if i'm with a group of friends. You're more likely to get random, nicer, lonely people that are looking for friends or a shared experience.
Good luck!
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i agree with ya tbh when i first got the game it was weird to find anyone I actually wanted to talk to I got lucky and found someone cool and they let me join their friend group and im grateful for all of em theyre all super cool people but vrc carries alot of unnecessary drama with it.
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The most difficult thing in VRC is to come to terms with the fact that people are easy to replace. Many go around, make friends quickly and "consume" what their new friends have to offer for a quick rush and then just move on to the next one leaving their past contacts in the dust. This is common and easy to do. For every person that tells you how unique and cool you are there are 10 others just like you and the one person who praised you specifically a moment ago might have their sight already on one of the other 10 besides you.
Unlike IRL, people in VRchat and new contacts are abundant and usually no risk, minimal commitment.The more you give the more they take.The best course of action is to treat no one as more special as the other until they prove themselves to want to stick around you. Don't be toxic but don't be overly kind either. Be yourself and see how fast they want to move in certain directions. Do they seek lewd? Do they spam invite or request on you after the Friendrequest? Do they forget you after 3days?
Remember to not get to attached or sad over peoples behavior on this platform. Be the best version of yourself to yourself and then to others. It is what it is. Then see who sticks and those will be your friends.
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@Metafalica ty <333
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@TheLostPuppy @Ex Agreed, just be careful who you surround yourself with.
